I know a lot of you see the title and probably think here we go again. This is a subject I have been thinking of carefully in fact. I see a lot of guys are ditching a good romance for a bromance. Let me explain….
To those of you that don’t know what a bromance is…. Let me tell you. It’s like a non -sexual relationship between two or more men who are co-dependent on each other and most of the time don’t even know they are. This… you heard it right. Now, are you getting the picture? I am sure you are now thinking hard. You don’t have to think too far. Let me Jog your memory.
Have you ever dated a guy that always puts his friends first or behaves differently with you when you are in front of his friends though you have been dating six months? This is because he is probably having a bromance with his friends. Most of the time, he does not even know it himself. Remember when he had to go and do chores with his friends, though he will never help you when you need him? And the fact that if his friend does not like you, he will dump you though he is madly in love with you. That’s a bromance situation.
The reason bromances don’t work and what men don’t understand is one partner is always jealous, and one partner is going to get left high and dry. You see when these bromances happen, the participants themselves are usually unaware. They just think they have a normal friendship. However, there is usually jealousy or insecurity on one side of the relationship or the group.
That’s why when one of them has a partner, the others feel less than. It is actually the job of the one with the partner to put his foot down and say this is the person I love, and I intend on him or her being part of my life. The others can either accept it or perhaps distance themselves. Most of the time, however, they will end up accepting their friends’ partner. If their friend is confident enough to stand up against the pressure.
If you’ve been the one on the other side, a bromance is of great disservice to a lot of men. Some men become so involved in this bromance that they do not even pay attention to their partners, they are too deeply involved with their friends. A bromance is something most men don’t even realise they are in . Comparing the two types of relationships; As far as a bromance goes, you are in for the long run, it is not necessarily a winning race. The participants in a bromance will one day find their own romances, and then they will treat you like the third wheel. Mainly because you do not have a significant other and you cant find one cause you are emotionally attached to your bromance, and now your friend has a partner.
Guys, when you meet the love of your life, don’t let a bromance destroy that relationship. The relationship is worth so much more to you in the long run. You just have to tell your bromance buddies to grow up and act like mature men. They have to also find a partner, and if they don’t want to, they should not use you as their emotional crutch. That said, I do understand how difficult it can sometimes be when you are in that position, but a true friend has to put your well being first and want you to grow and soar.
How many men have you seen over 60 that totally thought they were kids in a bromance? Now all their friends are married off, and they are alone and single. What are they to do? They gave up the best years of their life for a bromance and now the very friends they gave it up for are now married with children.
The moral of the story is to think of your happiness first when you are getting into these situations. Or else you may end up regretting the decisions you make. It is never to late to ditch a bromance for a romance. Also, realise that there is always space for both relationships to coexist; you just have to set boundaries.