Turn Your Mess Into Your Message
Updated: Feb 20
As humans, we are bound to make mistakes. It is these mistakes that turn us into better humans. Nobody is perfect, nobody is exempt from defaulting. For some people, mistakes mark the end of their lives because they chose to dwell on that mistake for life. We must discover our unique life messages. This is sometimes difficult because some people spend a lot of time trying to cover up their failures and past mistakes. Our quest for public recognition makes us show our success while covering the errors.
As mentioned earlier, making mistakes is a normal part of life. We would never learn anything if we do not make mistakes. The most important part of making mistakes is the bounce back. There are simple techniques you can use to stop paying attention to your failures and turn them around.
ACCEPTING YOUR MISTAKES
First, you have to accept your mistakes. When you make mistakes, you have to remind yourself that they do not define who you are. Do not let your worth or value be determined by your mistakes. To move on, you need to own your mistakes. It is imperative that you face your mistakes head-on and own them rather than look for who to blame. Realizing that you are wrong is the first step towards moving forward. The faster you are in owning up to your mistakes, the faster you will get back on track, but making excuses for yourself or trying to blame others makes the recovery process longer. The best way to move on is to talk about it to people you are close to, probably your family or close friends. These are the people who tell you what you should or shouldn’t do next time and also shed some lights on the experience, which might make you feel better.
DO NOT DWELL ON YOUR MESS
This is, obviously, the most dangerous thing to do. Not only does it push you into depression, but it also affects your self-esteem negatively, kills your drive and gives you a thousand reasons not to try to be a better person in the future. There are a lot of ways to stop dwelling in your mess. Some online professionals can offer you the help, you could reach out to them.
DO NOT FEEL PATHETIC OR SORRY FOR YOURSELF
When you make mistakes, do not stay down. Get up quickly and keep moving, just like you do when you have fallen. If you keep thinking about it, you will get stuck in it and miss out better opportunities that await you. Pay more attention to the positive aspect of the mistake and do not forget that these experiences will serve you well later on in life. It may be there to help you guide someone else or to help you make better decisions.
CONSIDER YOUR MESS AS A PROCESS TO LEARN AND IMPROVE
When scientists encounter failure, they call it a failed experiment. This perspective changes a lot of things about you. According to Dr Joyce, “someone interested in success needs to learn to see failure as an inevitable part of the process of climbing to the top”.
DO NOT GIVE UP
Learn not to allow your mistakes to define or lead you. Also, learn how to talk about your mistakes to people you are close to who can understand you. No matter how bad, no experience is a bad experience. Lessons can only be called “bad experiences” if you do not learn from them. Always bear in mind that excellent skills are sometimes a result of bad experiences.
MAKE LIST OF REASON WHY YOU DO NOT WANT TO REPEAT THE SAME MISTAKE AGAIN AND MAKE A PLAN
You are done acknowledging your mistakes and talking to family and friends about it, so It is time to spend your time thinking about how to do better in the future and also make a plan that will help you avoid making a similar mistake.
Get a book and write down the reasons why you do not want to make the same mistake again. This is to serve as a constant reminder of what you went through the last time you made a mistake. And also make it harder for you to make the same mistake again.
You can find someone who can help track your progress and also hold yourself accountable each time you fail to follow your plans. Good luck on your journey to becoming your best self.